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The art of letting go

I like the concept of letting go. But although it’s one of the issues that I really love to discuss with friends and colleagues, it’s still a touchy one. People are not so open to the idea of letting go. They cling on some past events in life or on a present situation that needs to be put in the past and left there.

Letting go seems painful, but really it’s not. It’s utterly liberating even. It’s so much easier than chasing—chasing something that doesn’t want to be captured or something that you can never reach. Rather than chasing happiness, why don’t you just let go of the things that makes you unhappy? The very notion of chasing something has a sense of urgency about it, doesn’t it? And, of course, with urgency comes anxiety. And with anxiety comes illness. And with illness comes unhappiness. When you become unhappy in your life or in your business, you will become less effective in dealing with the pressing needs of your life. You begin to not notice the changes that you need to adhere to. The people you work with become distant and they lose trust in your judgment.

I think it’s time to pick up the slack and decide to just let go of the things that aren’t making you the person that you should become. It’s time to let go of the need to seek the acceptance, approval and even permission of others. If you want their approval, let go of the things that you’re doing wrong. Of course, it’s also not healthy to do something just to impress others. Make that need for approval a motivating factor to better yourself, but please go beyond that stimulus. You can’t go on living your life under the watchful eyes of other people. Live your life and grow.

Just simple open your hands and let go. If you see yourself becoming miserable, let go. Let go of the emotional attachments you’re giving on a certain person or a certain failure that you had in the past. Know this: your past does not define your future. You can learn from your past, but you can always change the future based on what you do today.

Let go of the anger. Let go of the negativity. Let go of the things that pull you down. Well, if you can honestly tell me that you’re actually succeeding in your life and achieving your goals with these baggage in your system, then maybe I will think twice. But let’s face it, there’s no going anywhere when you have this negativity. For a time, you may feel you’re going somewhere, but after a while, you’ll notice that you’re actually going somewhere: down.

Let go of good things. And you come back to me and say, “ You just asked me to let go of the bad stuff, and now you’re asking me to let go of the good stuff as well? What’s left?” More room. What’s left is more room to receive more good things and even better ones or even the best things in life. Don’t you dare stop growing. This is tricky because when you’re at the top you feel like there’s nothing more to ask for. And of course by now you know that this is so not true. There’s no limit to growth! When you’re down, let go and grow. When you’re up there, let go and grow even more.

Move on. Let go.

Your thoughts

What do you think? Are there things in your life that you need to let go of? What have you done to do just that? What did we miss? What do you like to share?

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Stephen NellasStephen is part of the Software Jewel team, the company behind Clutterpad and BiP. He's also a regular author for BiP.View all posts by Stephen Nellas →