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Keeping your resolutions

Do you still believe in resolutions during the New Year? You know, the promises and the resolve that you will start to have a better life, or have a really successful detachment from a vice or a promise to loved one.

I know how you feel. It’s hard. But you can actually really do it. The key is to not make a vow to make huge changes that will be hard to keep. Instead follow these tips for successfully making a new year’s resolution you can stick to for good.

1. One resolution at a time, please.

If you really need to change an aspect of your life or your lifestyle don’t try to change the whole thing at once. It will never work. Because it just doesn’t work that way. Instead pick one area of your life to change to begin with. Do it step by step.

Make it something concrete so you know exactly what change you’re planning to make. If you’re successful with the first change you can go ahead and make another change after a month or so, depending on your readiness and openness. By making small changes one after the other, you still have the chance to be a whole new you at the end of the year and it’s a much more realistic way of doing things.

2. Plan—don’t fight it. Just plan.

To ensure that your success is predictable, you need to study about the change you’re about to make and plan ahead so you have the resources available when you need them. Read about it – Go to the library and get books on the subject. Devour those books. Learn everything you can. Whether it’s quitting smoking, taking up new sports or yoga or becoming a vegan there are books to help you prepare for it. Use the Internet. If you do enough research you should even be looking forward to making the change. When something becomes familiar to you, the sense of it being mysterious and hidden from you goes away. That makes all the difference because then you will know that it can be done.

3. Anticipate downtimes.

There will always be problems so make a list of what they’ll be. If you think about it, you’ll be able to anticipate problems at certain times of the day, with specific people or in special situations. You don’t really have to be too conscious about thinking about problems. You don’t need to fear becoming negative. You won’t. Trust me. Just get some help from experience. Once you’ve identified the times that will probably be hard work out ways to cope with them when they inevitably crop up.

4. Go for it.

On the big day go for it 100%. Don’t look back. Really commit to it and write it down on a card. You just need one short phrase you can carry in your wallet. Or keep it in your car, by your bed and on your bathroom mirror too for an extra dose of positive reinforcement and should reinforce your desire to really change something.

5. Accept failure.

If you do fail the first thing you should always remember is NEVER to hate yourself for it. Make a note of the triggers that caused this set back and strive to learn a lesson from them.
Perseverance is the key to success. Try again, keep trying and you will succeed.

Your thoughts

What do you think? Are you a person who always sets resolutions but never really do them? What do you think are your hindrances? What do you like to add?

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Stephen NellasStephen is part of the Software Jewel team, the company behind Clutterpad and BiP. He's also a regular author for BiP.View all posts by Stephen Nellas →